Recently, I worked with a client who found himself in a couple of situations many of us have either experienced, or fear experiencing. He called me, feeling down, frustrated and anxious about his future. In the same week, he was laid off at work and experienced the end of a six-year relationship. Ouch!
As we explored his situation, we discovered a couple of things. First, he really didn’t like his job and it was not leading him towards the financial success he desired. And second, the relationship that ended was an unhappy one for quite some time. Yet, he wanted to hold on to both of them and felt upset over what had occurred.
You see, many of us find ourselves in similar situations in life. We have something that isn’t quite what we want, but if we were to lose it, great fear and insecurity arises.
There are two forces that drive your life and prevent you from really having what you desire: attachments and aversions.
We become attached to what is comfortable for us — i.e., things that give us a false sense of having what we want; things that temporarily make us feel better for brief moments, only to leave us feeling rotten later. These attachments can include unfulfilling jobs, relationships that lack passion, bad habits such as smoking or overeating, and thousands of other possibilities.
Our attachments often prevent us from making the space in our life to have what we really desire. If life is a buffet, we have our plates full of food we don’t really like, meaning there isn’t any room for dessert.
Hanging on to that unfulfilling job for its false sense of security prevented this man from finding work he feels excited about doing — or starting a business of his own. His attachment to the mediocre relationship prevented him from exploring new possibilities and meeting someone who really loved him, and someone he really loved in turn.
When he saw this for himself, his energy took a dramatic turn in the positive direction. He saw new opportunity in his life instead of fear and loss. This one simple realization could likely change the course of his entire life.
We also have aversions. These are the things in life that feel uncomfortable to us. It could be making an important phone call, or asking out someone we are really attracted to, or getting in front of a room and sharing our brilliance. Aversions prevent us from moving forward, taking action and manifesting what we desire. Aversions prevent you from acting on your immense potential.
What are attachments and aversions and how can we overcome them?
Attachments and aversions are nothing more than feelings. Many of us say “I am frustrated” — but the truth is, “I feel frustrated.” I am having a feeling; I am not the feeling.
There is a wonderful technique called the Sedona Method that teaches a simple set of techniques that allow us to effortlessly “let go” of any unwanted thought or feeling — any attachment or aversion. With these blocks removed, you will feel more confidence, and more at ease and more willing to take the bold actions that produce success.
We can fight and struggle and force our way to success. We really can. I know. I have done it. But, ultimately, it is a hard, stressful, frustrating journey. I think you know what I mean.
Or, we can learn to easily overcome the resistance that creates a flow to life. When we overcome our attachments and aversions, we become truly free to be, do and have whatever we desire. It’s easy. It really is.
I encourage you to learn more about any program that teaches you to “let go.” It is the most powerful personal development tool I have ever learned. My favorite program on the market is the Sedona Method course — the original, and still the best, program of its kind.
The link below offers a free newsletter to learn more, and you can also order a free 2-hour DVD and introductory CD that includes a demonstration of one of the basic releasing techniques they teach. I encourage you to experience this program for yourself and discover the exhilarating possibility of true freedom from your attachments and aversions.